You Kept Asking "Why Am I So Unhappy" - Here Is Your Answer

We Our Own Prisoners?

Imagine a person in a prison. He/she has been imprisoned for life and will wait till death in the prison. What can possibly motivate such a person? What do these people look forward to receiving in their lives? Sometimes, we are also prisoners of our thoughts and our past deeds. We also have nothing else to look forward to. We only have regrets. At least, we can take care of the conditions, but the prisoners can do nothing. Life can be depressing at times. How to inspire ourselves in such conditions?

What is inspiration?

‘Inspiration’ the word as it is commonly understood means to experience a state of mind that propels us to work happily, seek to achieve goals, and feel good about ourselves and the world.How to break open the prison?When we are not inspired and can set no goals, we feel that we are so helpless that nothing can be accomplished. The first step would be an attempt to finding stories of people such as Helen Keller who overcame so many difficulties to emerge victorious. That will give us a basic thought that things are not that bad. We will open at least one door of our prison with this thought.

Then go back to your memory. Try and think of instances when you felt superior because of some achievements. It could be one thing, very small. Anything. Like coming first in the class in your second year in school, or getting a good remark from a teacher for an essay or a math answer. That will break open another door.Now begin counting your blessings. Do not have a functioning kidney? Can you see? Can you hear? Can you smell? Are your hands ok and so on. Will you sell your eyes at any price? No! Who told you have no money? You are a wealthy person who is unaware of your wealth, your blessings, Isn’t it? This will open one more door.Break the last door by thinking of the goals you might want to achieve. Be sure you can do that. Start planning. Think of ways. Talk to people. Be ready for a long struggle but with a firm resolve that you will achieve the objectives. This will take you out of the prison of your thinking and make you a new person ready to fight. Prepare to be carried out. You are a winner in making!

We chose Material Over Spiritual.

When talking about love, attachment, jealousy, people think they know exactly what love is, but they do not. And their misunderstanding about love creates jealousy. By ‘love’ people mean a guaranteed monopoly, some possessiveness, without understanding a simple fact of life – the moment you possess a living being, you kill him. Life cannot be possessed. You cannot get it in your fist. If you want to find it, you must keep your hands open. Sometimes people are so possessive that they become attached even to objects. Allow me to narrate a short story, a Buddhist nun who had a small statue of Buddha, made of solid gold. She would carry it while travelling from monastery to monastery. Her problem was that every morning she would worship her Buddha and burn incense. But incense cannot be directed, can it? Now this was very distressing. Her own buddha was sitting there, while her incense, her offering had flown away to some other Buddha in some other temple.She finally devised a strategy to help ensure that the incense reached her Buddha, and her Buddha alone. She followed out a tiny bamboo and she kept it on her incense burner, directing the perfumed smoke with the hollow bamboo towards the nose of her very own Buddha.

Nevertheless, very soon there arose another problem. The nose of her Buddha turned black with the smoke. She was in a great distress – a gold Buddha, a solid gold Buddha, with a black nose. It simply did not seem right.She inquired of older monks: “What should I do now? If I don’t use the bamboo, then the incense… nobody knows exactly where it goes. It goes to all kinds of Buddhas when I’m offering it to me. And now due to this bamboo, his nose has turned black. What should I do? ”An elderly monk laughed and said. “Woman, you are an idiot! You don’t understand the simple fact that all Buddhas are the same – they are simply statues of the same person. You have become attached to your Buddha, even though the entire teaching of Buddha is non-attachment.”Monk carried on: “This serves you right. The buddha has shown you that attachment makes you dirty. So beware! Go to a goldsmith so he can clean and polish your Buddha. But from now on, just think of THE Buddha. Any Buddha, whichever Buddha gets the incense… perhaps he deserves it! And you should be happy that it has reached some statue, because all those statues represent the same person.”

- Unhappy people consider themselves to be victims of life and remain stuck in the" appearance of what has come to me,".

- Happy people are mindful of the world's problems, but they also balance their concern with seeing what is right and good.

- Unhappy people tend to close their eyes to anything good in the world in fear that they may be distracted from what is wrong.

- Happy people take steps every day to achieve their goals, but ultimately, there is very little control over what life is throwing at us.

Happiness is just as much a physical experience as a mental state, and our obsession with achieving happiness as a society, regardless of situations, leads to the suppression of real feelings that are also important such as sadness, fear, anger. Happiness takes courage, courage to make the decision to change things that took you to the unfortunate road and not the happy one. Happy, here, is not much of an emotional response to the stimuli of the moment, but fascination of a person with life in general, a cheerful approach to the activities of the day and a jovial attitude towards the future. Life is tough - no doubt about it - but you can't be responsible for the happiness of someone else but your own. Or can you?...

Learning new things definitely improve your self-esteem, but you also become burdened with the knowledge and develop an urge to act upon your ideas. And usually smart people who understand too much - they are the least happy. Above all, awareness will help you to realize that the never-ending quest for money, fame or power will never make you happy. It is the path to the hell. I hope most people wake up and stop being preoccupied with things that have no meaning.

Your happiness is based exclusively on your decision to be happy. As someone said, we are unhappy when we perceive a distance between our standards for the world (and our place within it) and the realities we encounter. Knowing that your daily actions can change your life and your future is what keeps people going. But the guys who said those things wasn't bright as my favourite Bertrand Russell. And I cannot omit the greatest mind of the 20th century and his famous "Conquest of Happiness".

Everything is external - expectations, pride, fear, failure. But they become insignificant in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. "America alone in the thrall of hypercapitalism believes that only seeing people as assets is clarity, not the very definition of blindness." "the dark portrait that Haque paints of modern day - American youth and the success." "Envy was increasing because we don't just know about our neighbors' fortune, through movies, the press and education we know the lifestyles of the rich and famous." "Today, those same dreamers find it quite unsettling to watch as the tools that were designed to bring people together are used by people to magnify divisions and undermine social solidarity." "If there is to be less envy, means must be found for remedying this state of affairs, and if no such means are found our civilization is in danger of going down to destruction in an orgy of hatred." "Russell uses the phrase "sense of sin" to talk about the feeling of doing something wrong, not living up to a moral code." "To see in imagination the society that is to be created, where individuals grow freely, and where hate and greed and envy die because there is nothing to nourish them." "To be genuinely indifferent to (public opinion) is both a strength and a source of happiness.

And he wrote it in the last senture. Have things changed and his hopes for humanity are coming to be true? In my opinion things are getting worse. Just look at Forbes and look again, and think. I took some screenshots of American elite.

Yes. Great. They made it. Will you be able to make it? Will I?... But first - pseudo elite.

And what exactly have they done? They were trying to be rich! They wanted money in every possible way. They love money more than anything else. They did not innovate, make a scientific breakthrough or left intellectual legacy. The only motivation was money.

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Real elite.

Let's look at the other one who made the Forbes cut. Is his motivation only money? Is money motivation for those people at all?... Like Jeff Bezos said:

If you found your passion as the way to make a living, you hit the home run; if you have a career - it is also good; but when you have a job - that means you are not the happiest.  

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