Today we will touch upon a vast topic: “stri dharma”, the nature of a woman. The Sanskrit word “stri” means “woman.” Dharma is a polysemantic word meaning the path of religion, piety, loyalty, obligation, duty and much more. “Stri dharma” is the natural path of a woman. There are two main schools of thoughts about women in modern society. The western women’s liberation movement and its opposition that advocate traditional values. The so-called struggle for women’s freedom greatly influenced everyone, even in India, Iran, Japan and other places.
True liberation starts with leaving work and returning home
I wish there was a non profit organization in the West called Counsel of Truly Free and Happy Women. Its mission would be to set western women free from liberation, and empower them to live together according to their nature as mothers and wives. For a woman, liberation starts with leaving work and returning home. As soon as she returns home – she becomes free. Work keeps her in the realm of outer consciousness and under the influence of propagandist machine, while returning home enables her to live according to her true inner being. In the West, a woman is a wife at first, and then a mother. But in the East, her maternal duties come first. For generations mother has been teaching her daughter about home affairs. Not how to seek for a job.
Traditional values – what is wrong with them?!
Two thousand years ago the Indian poet Thiruvalluvar made such an observation: “Is it possible for a man to lack something if he has a good wife? And does a man have everything if he has a bad wife? “In the East, the woman and her role in society are addressed in great respect. In the West, women are valued no more than bread in the grocery store. Their contribution is discounted, undervalued and not recognized. In fact, this is for this reason that women seek satisfaction and recognition in other spheres, because Western society has forgotten about their unique, vitally important role. Offended by ignorance, she seeks other means to obtain recognition, appreciation and love.
In the East, family ties are very tight. Women in the family are very close. They live together in a commune, surrounded by older and younger women, sometimes in the same house. They mutually support each other – older and more experienced women help the younger. Several generations work together to share the joys and difficulties of life. In the West, everything is different. Here, women usually cannot benefit from close communication with other family members. They made so many movies with a title “How to survive family reunion this Christmas”. Naturally, western women feel lonely, especially if they are not part of the religious community. Because of the feelings of loneliness, they want to get out into the world to enjoy life a little in a bar or work place. This is an illusion of joy created by the liberation movement. In the East, the female and male forces are balanced. In the West, male power is dominant. Women’s energy need more opportunities for manifestation, but it doesn’t mean that women need to do what men do. No. It will only confuse these forces even more.
You can start with establishing the harmony in your own home. By improving the microcosm, we impact the macrocosm. In the East, a woman is protected. She is like a precious stone cannot be left unattended, always guarded. Women are not put on public display, not forced to give up their chastity. A woman in the East has the opportunity to be completely a woman, showing her real quality – tenderness, insight, love, kindness. Home and family are the only duties of eastern women.
Capitalism dictates its own rules.
It is interesting that 60 years ago everything was similar in the West. Before the First World War, women lived according to traditional values. Wars destroyed the traditional roles of men and women. Men went to serve in the military, and women were forced to leave the house and work for the goodness of capitalism, so that production would not stand still. Throughout history, their purity and chastity were highly valued. They got married innocent. These traditions were maintained until 1915. Then two world wars destroyed the family as such and broke the balance between roles of men and women. For the first time a woman could be seen alone in public, exposing her breasts, exploring her sexuality. They left home and started competing with men for jobs.
You can see that humanity has changed due to the transition from agriculture to technology. These changes affected female and male roles in a very interesting way. During the agricultural era, the families mostly lived and worked in the field or in craft shops. Men was employed in the field, women and children at home. More children meant more helpers, more farming. A tiny boy or girl could do a lot of things. When the harvest was sold, the profit was the result of the aggregate labor – men, women and even children. In fact, everyone earned money. Each was economically important. It was really tough time if you think about it.
Since children no longer a labor – they are a burden.
Liberation came with the age of technology – women and children did not have to be a labor any more. Man earns, everyone spends. The husband works in a factory or for a corporation, and wife with children stays home. They cannot really help him at work. His work is not related to his wife like it used to be. He is the earner, a producer, and his wife with children is consumers. Due to the fact that children now cannot be used as labor – they became a burden for capitalism. That associated with other global trends invalidated the importance of women’s roles as mothers and wives.
The question is not whether women join their husbands at the workplace. The question is how to restore the traditional principles in the technological era, how to find a new balance of activities that would satisfy both male and female nature. Husband by nature must provide for a wife, protect her, give her a full life. She, in turn, must take good care of him, make the house a temple and bring up good children. Spouses should never criticize each other. And the main focus of their life together should be spiritual development.
Women change the course of history by raising children.
The mother‘s place is inside the house, not at work. If she is at home all day, it brings love and safety to children, for her husband – meaning and sense of duty.
How does she do it? Only mother can bring up strong, well behaved and intelligent children. No daycare or school. They grow up and become beautiful men and women in the community, the leaders of the nation, creators in all dimensions of life. Such people change the course of human history. The great power to properly form the mind and character of the future generation is in the hands of the mother.
Of course, the mother can have the opposite force, which manifests itself as negligible. This is when she allows her children to grow on their own, on the street, where they learn the laws of survival. And such children will also change the course of history, but in a negative way. They will fall into the mental or emotional abyss, in which subtle nature of man manifests as lust, dependence and criminal behavior. The young generation says the direction for humanity – either to great achievements or to decay. The mother is the first teacher of the child. She sets the child’s mind for life. The old saying goes: “The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.”
When the mother rocks the cradle, her love and energy flows into the child, and baby feels peace and security. She has time to sing sweet lullabies to console tears, time to tell stories about people, about the world, of different beings, time for “unnecessary” tenderness. On the other hand, a working mother does not have the time for “extra” tenderness. If her child cries, she is angry with him because of problems at work. She demands silence from a child sometimes by using well known medications. The child doesn’t understand the language yet. But you can imagine the feelings of the little one who gets an energy shot of anger and frustration from the mother. Where can this child go? Even in the arms of his own mother he has no asylum.
Will we end this vicious cycle?
What next generations will be, if children are raised in such conditions? Will they be strong and confident? Will they radiate kindness towards others if they themselves were deprived of kindness? Will they be patient and understanding? It is demonstrated by a lot of sociologists that people who prone to addiction and wrongdoing are people who were neglected or beaten as a child. Virtually all parents who abuse their children badly were themselves in the same situation in their childhood. Vicious cycle.
As long, as mothers do not take care of children as they meant to, society will be filled with generations of disillusioned adults who were once disenchanted children. And these people will lead the world. What will happen then? They will raise their own children accordingly. They will think that neglecting is normal, that children can be by themselves from infancy and be brought up by a nanny and the day care. Childhood abandonment leads to bitter adult life, whereas childhood with loving mother leads to a happy life.
We learn a lot from mothers. We not only find out how the world works, but also how she feels. If she is patient, we learn patience. If she is angry and unhappy, we learn how to be angry and unhappy. The mother‘s love belongs to the child, but indirectly she influences the destiny of the entire humanity.
Spirituality begins at home under the guidance of the mother and her instructions. In India, the mother goes to the temple to be stronger. That’s why Indians like to live near temples. They need to get to the temple to receive power from the Divine. Returning home they nurture the virtue of modern citizens of the world.